17, 09, 2014
Two years ago I wrote my thoughts on long distance relationships, and it might have left on a sour note… The truth was at that time I had ended a 2 year long distance “relationship” with someone from another country. In the end, it didn’t work out the way I imagined since we both had two different paths into the future. But that was the past- and now that I have a more clear and open-mind again, I thought it’s time for an update and my thoughts now on LDRs.
We are very lucky to live in a crazed high-tech world. Situations that were once impossible are now very possible. Having a LDR may still not be that conventional, but falling in love can bloom anywhere at anytime. With the way LDRs are going, distance may not seem so far away as we thought.
Deciding to go the distance? Or already in a LDR? Well there are a few things you need to keep in mind to maintain this unfortunate (but worthwhile!) situation.
Both of you are on the same page
It’s true, this can only work if both of you have the same ideas of what you want in a relationship. In this type of relationship you need to know where everything is going, or at least have an idea of where you want it to be going. So discussions about many future plans of how you both will make this work will be talked about pretty early and quite often. The real key here is having amazing communication with each other. Alignment helps this relationship work.
Use your words
“Express yourself, don’t repress yourself” (I just had to use the Madonna reference lol). If you’re not usually a lovey-dovey type of person to begin with, you will eventually learn how to unleash your inner cheeseball, and that’s not necessarily always a bad thing! Since you are not always physically around your beau, expressing in words how you feel are the next best thing. Don’t keep it in, let them be aware of what’s on your mind and how you feel.
Find the time to make it work
Let’s face it, life gets in the way, but there will and always will be a time to make room for your guy/gal. Whether is be a one week visit, or an hour phone call- it is possible to make the time for them. If you want it to work, you will put as much effort as you can for it to work. Bringing me to the next point…
Share your world
Sending photos and videos are such a norm that it’s basically all we all do now. Smartphones have taken over as our computers, so it’s easy to be on the go while carrying your “life” around. Whatsapp, Skype, Facetime, Google Hangouts- just to name a few make communication with each other so easy nowadays.
And for those of you in a LDR, it takes a lot of effort but don’t loose hope! Everything will fall into place when it’s the right time.