15, 05, 2015
Being in your 20 somethings in general can be quite the ride so I wanted to reflect on a few things I’ve learned over the past years. Sure, there’s still a lot more that needs to be and will be learned since this isn’t the end of the journey, however it’s nice to look back and see what has changed in the last few years. Like many, we’ve been through a lot and achieved a lot more than what we give ourselves credit for. From my experience I believe early 20s and mid to late 20s are completely different times. In my early 20s I was still in school, often clubbing/partying, and didn’t have many responsibilities – but as I got into 25 plus I started to realize life isn’t just about that lifestyle anymore (sh*t just got real!). These are a few things I’ve learned…
Even as adults we still don’t know who we are or where the hell we’re going. Honestly I don’t know if we will ever have a straight answer to who we are, we can however put pieces together by finding out what we like and what we are great at doing. It’s perfectly fine to make mistakes or feel lost when figuring it out – oh and this can even happen reaching closer to 30s. There should be no shame since not all of us have a completely clear idea of what we see for the future. In most situations things just fall into place organically. Take the time to learn about yourself and who you inspire to be. Going out, getting your hands dirty, and trying something new or something that you’ve been interested in will help you. Definitely challenge yourself and explore the adventurous side while you’re at it because you will be surprised at what you are capable of doing.
It’s normal to have different ideas of what you want that may seem unusual or not what everyone else is doing. Everyone’s idea of success or how they see their lives going are all different. Just because all your friends are doing the same things – whether it’s moving in with their boyfriend, getting engaged, or having kids doesn’t mean you should or need to be doing the same thing. If you don’t see your life in that way whether it be now or ever don’t force it. It’s unnecessary pressure on you for something you don’t want or think is in the right timing for you. If you want to focus on yourself and continue your life adventure, do it. If you want to move to a different city to experience a new culture and people, or want to start your own business, or just have other ideas before you fully settle down, just do it. There are no timelines. The sky’s the limit in your 20s!
It’s nice to have a safety net and be comfortable with the people you normally surround yourself with, or even places you are very familiar with; but stepping out once in awhile will give you new and fresh perspectives. It’s like when you go on vacation to a different country and you aren’t familiar with any of your surroundings, but once you go in with an open-mind you discover so many beautiful and not so beautiful things. Either way you gain a new insight and inspiration. It’s normal to feel scared about taking steps into something you’ve never tried before, but once you do it you will thank yourself for the experience regardless of the outcome.
This links to exploring who you are since it’s all about trying everything out. Failure bounds to happen at some point in our lives. We can’t always completely have our lives under control and sometimes things just don’t work out for us. With that being said, you still shouldn’t let the fear of failure get in the way of you wanting to do something. Nothing in life is 100% bullet proof. What is meant to be with be.
This of course is the most important of all. Many of us struggle a lot with trusting ourselves – even the strong can have doubts when making decisions. You can go on all you want and listen to other people’s advice but you need to experience things on your own. There are certain times we like to have a second opinion, but if someone is telling you something but your heart is telling you something else, it really all comes down to you and what feels right. Your instinct is there for a reason and it’s completely fine to trust yourself. Even if you find out you weren’t totally right about a decision at least you went for it. Our mistakes aren’t embarrassments, they are the life experiences that helped us to grow and build character. You wouldn’t be you if you didn’t do the things you did. And with trusting comes loving. Once you learn to love you everything makes more sense and things start to fall into place. You hold the key to your life so try and make the best of everything you do.