13, 03, 2017
During our lifetime, we may encounter a few regrets along the way of things we wished we had done differently or hadn’t done at all. Some possibilities could be of missed opportunities we could have taken, or the amount of time we could have spent with a certain someone. Although I personally believe no regret should be hung onto for long, there are certain ways that we may need to deal with and get through some of them in a type of matter.
Working too much
They say that no one is on their deathbed wishing that they’d worked more. And while we live increasingly busy lives in which technology has blurred the line between work and home, it’s a good idea to focus on what’s most important to you. If you are constantly being torn away from the people you love by your job, it may well be time to reconsider your priorities. The first step is setting some time aside on a regular basis dedicated to the people you love.
It’s so easy to become swept away by the rushing tide of life. Before you know it, it’s been years or even decades since you’ve seen the people you once vowed to be friends forever with. Luckily, the advent of social media has made it easier to stay in touch than ever before. But rather than watching your friend’s lives through the screen of your phone, why not make the first move and actually make contact with them to meet in person? There’s no doubt they would appreciate it and want to spend time with you in person.
Being too influenced by others
Many people waste too much time obsessing over what other’s think of them. If we place all importance on this unnecessary issue, it can seriously impact our own happiness. A good way to look at it is that the vast majority of our trivial day to day worries will become insignificant very soon. In fact, many of them can disappear in a matter of hours or days rather than years. Focus on what makes yourself happy and worry less.
Saying ‘no’ too often
How many times have you said ‘no’ when someone has asked you to do something? It may have been that you were too tired or you were nervous about meeting new people. But in the long run, you will never remember the nights you stayed on the sofa watching Netflix. It’s real experiences, whether good or bad, that tend to stay in the memory for the longest time so start learning to say yes.
Okay, this one might not be as emotional as the rest, but we all cringe at some of the fashion, hairstyle and beauty choices we have made over the years. Most of these are only short term, though at the more serious end of the scale, tattoo removals may be required. Either way, these are the types of regrets it’s easier to laugh about in the future!
Ultimately, you can’t account for some of the things in life that are going to cause regret. We need to also remind ourselves that instead of always seeing regrets as a negative aspect, that they can be seen as ways in how we developed and grew into the person we have become today. And I’d say a lot of us are very fortunate and have it pretty good!